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“My husband’s still angry that I hurt him…”

Q:  I’m dealing with a husband right now who is having a hard time getting over things that I’ve said to him. Words hurt more than a blow to the jaw. And its even harder for us because it took me so long to come out of the denial that i was in that he was truly unhappy about things that have been said between us. i don’t want to give up... [Read more of this review]

“My husband doesn’t trust me”

Q:  My husband can’t forgive me for betraying his trust.  It has been 3 years.  I don’t know what else to do. ~ “V,” Northern Natal A:  Let it go. It can be painful when others do not feel what we want them to feel - love, tenderness, forgiveness.  But it only hurts as long as we focus on what we cannot control. There is... [Read more of this review]

Help! My husband is upset that I have more sexual experience than he does…

Q:  How do I get my husband to forgive me for having more sexual experience than he does?  ~ C.V., California Early in our relationship I made the mistake of telling my, now husband about my sexual history. Four years later, this is still affecting our relationship. I have had many more partners then him and he never lets me forget it. It has gotten... [Read more of this review]

My son won’t speak to people. It’s seen as rude. What can I do?

Q:  My 5-year-old son refuses to greet or say good-bye to anyone unless I threaten not to take him where he wants to go, or not to see his friends if he doesn’t greet their parents. I’m uncomfortable making excuses for him, such as “he’s shy” or “he needs to warm up to you first.” A:  My favorite expert on... [Read more of this review]

My child won’t obey without punishments and threats. What can I do?

Q: My 3-year-old daughter is constantly getting time outs at daycare and at home. I have to basically put the fear of a “butt pop” into her to get her to do what she is asked to do - anything from “come here” to “stop stomping.” When given a directive, she just takes her time (purposefully moving slow or ignoring... [Read more of this review]

How do we break the poor and destructive patterns and start the healing process?

Q:  How do we break the poor and destructive patterns and start the healing process? – Nava A:  When we’re stuck in “patterns,” we’re not fully present.  Instead of responding constructively and creatively to the present situation, we react hostily and habitually, based on memories of the past. To break out of destructive patterns and start... [Read more of this review]

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