Twenty years of marriage, 15 years of homeschooling, a Harvard University Master of Education degree, and Professional Family Coach Certification have taught Venus ONE THING about relationships:
To heal your relationships, you must heal yourself first.TM
Many of us believe the opposite is true. We believe, “If my partner would just treat me better, I’d feel loved.” Or, “If my kids would just behave better, I could relax and be a happy parent.”
Life doesn’t work that way.
Healing works from the inside out. When you heal yourself, the benefits ripple outward…and, like tossing a pebble into a pond, everything around you shifts.
From the beginning, Venus’ own marriage threatened to disintegrate year after year. Everything she did to try to improve the marriage – including stuffing her pain and silencing herself – just made it worse.
It was only after she turned inward and focused on her self-healing, that her marriage grew strong. She and her husband, Hycel, celebrated their 20th anniversary in May 2009, and they both report that they are happier and more deeply connected than they’ve ever been.
Venus used a similar self-healing strategy in parenting her children. She focused on healing the pain of her own abusive childhood, and noticed that her parenting choices dissolved emotional baggage that had been handed down for generations. She often says she ended a Legacy of Pain and handed down to her children a Legacy of Healing.
She combined her extensive education and professional experience with her personal experience to create a Family Healing system that works for couples and parents who want to ensure that their families grow together, not apart.
Her workshops, books, and coaching programs help families create homes where everyone feels seen, heard, understood, and respected.
Learn more about the Family Healing Institute’s HEART-Based Parenting program, by getting your copy of Becoming the Mom I Wish I’d Had.
Stay tuned for Venus’ Marriage Healing book, coming in Summer 2010.