Letter to Rihanna - You Are Already With Your Perfect Partner

Dear Rihanna (or anyone in what feels like an imperfect relationship),

Just a quick note of support for you during this trying time.

You are dealing publicly with a situation that many women - young and old - are dealing with privately.  And let me be the first to say that, we, the public, have no right to judge you for your decisions.

I just want to share one thing I’ve learned as I’ve studied relationships over the years:  We are always with our perfect partner.

I believe, as spirits, we are here to learn and grow.  Our life experiences are exactly the ones we require to learn and grow, and to really figure out once and for all WHO WE REALLY ARE.

We stay in situations, good or bad, for as long as it takes to learn what we most need to learn.  And no one can say how long it should take.

Once we learn the lesson, we move on.  If we keep repeating a lesson, we haven’t truly learned it.  But when we finally GET it, once and for all, we can be grateful for the experience that taught us so well.

Only you can know what your current situation is intended to teach you.  And often we don’t know, consciously.  All we know is that our gut says, “Stay put,” or “Leave now,” and we find ourselves doing what we can’t even explain.

If your partner is abusive, perhaps the lesson you ultimately learn is:  I am good, and worthy of my own love…I am strong enough to stand alone…I deserve tenderness and respect.

Once this lesson is learned - once you truly, deeply believe these things without exception - then you will honor yourself and not tolerate an environment that is not worthy of you.

When you are gone, you will look back and know that THAT partner was perfect for you at THAT time…because without those experiences, you would not know what you know today.  THAT partner was perfect at THAT time, because you were receiving the love you thought you deserved at that time.

When you truly know who you are and what you’re worth, you will not tolerate the unacceptable.

I wish you love and strength,

Venus

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